5 ways to support your child’s mental health

The countdown to the 2019 National Senior Certificate examinations has begun, and if you are the parent of a matric learner you may well be thinking of the weeks up ahead with some trepidation.  Your child is about to go through a rite of passage to leave the world of school behind, and how they perform will have reverberating effects.  It’s a particular trial of their young life that won’t just test their intellectual capabilities but their resilience and emotional intelligence too.

Jogini Packery, Counselling Psychologist and Head of Student Services at SACAP (the South African College of Applied Psychology) shares 5 strategies for parents to support their child’s mental health and help them to be at their best over exam time.

Make your child’s emotional well-being a priority
Your child’s mental health matters.  This is a really important time to be talking about feelings and understanding how they are affecting behaviours.  Help your child to identify the sources of stress and the thoughts that evoke fears and anxieties.  Help them to become aware of their ways of dealing with negative feelings; and to find coping strategies that help them bounce back quickly and effectively.  Emphasise the importance of having a calm and emotionally supportive home environment to all family members.

Promote and enable proactive stress management
The stresses of Matric exam time are inevitable, but that doesn’t mean you can’t limit the impact.  Some level of stress can be a positive motivator for some kids, but what happens if the stress gets too much for your child?  It’s important to talk about the stresses of this life-changing time and have a plan for managing the impacts.  Help your child become aware when stress is rising. Watch for signs such as not sleeping or eating well, needing distractions or isolating themselves.  Keep the channels of communication open and the focus on the importance of mental health.  Discuss ways that will help your child proactively relieve stress such as taking some time out the study schedule to connect with a friend.

Promote and enable healthy living – A healthy body promotes a healthy mind.  Often the matric study schedule demands some sacrifices, but this should not compromise the basics of good health.  Sufficient, restorative sleep is vital and must be prioritised to optimise both emotional wellbeing and intellectual capacity.  Encourage regular physical activity, it’s not just good for the body but the mind too.  Exercise, even if it is just a walk around the block, will release endorphins that relieve stress and refresh the mind.  Keep the house well-stocked with healthy eating options including healthy snacks. 

Make sure expectations are realistic
Like stress, expectations also need to be managed around matric exam time.  Parents instinctively have high hopes for their children; so it’s up to us to ensure that our expectations of our matric child are not contributing to their stress.  It’s also common for kids to have expectations of themselves that heighten negative emotions and cause them stress.  Conversations around their goals for the matric exams and proper planning of their study schedule can highlight expectations that might be creating debilitating pressures.

Model the emotional well-being you want for them
Yes, they are almost an adult, but you’re still their most important role model.  Keeping yourself cool, calm and collected over this time is the most positive way that you can nurture their mental health.  If you are demonstrating how well your stress can be managed, they are more likely to get on board with their own stress management.  Taking care of your own mental health will empower you to have caring, compassionate conversations and support them in facing the challenges of matric with courage and resilience.

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