“I am literally God’s favourite human being, the odds are 0,13% to conceive triplets naturally.” Tsakani Ndlovu.
January 27, 2020
Tsakani, famously known as Triplet Mommy, has our hearts and ovaries melting on Twitter. The triplet mommy shares some of the most precious moments with her kids and we can’t help but drool. But behind the cuteness of it all, is the reality of raising 3 kids at the same time. I had the pleasure of talking to the triplet mom about her journey.
Growing up, did you always want kids? I only wanted 1 child. Then decided I want two so at least my 6-year-old son wouldn’t be alone should anything happen to me.
Do you or the father of your kids have twins/triplets in your family? My father was a twin, and my aunt from my father’s side had twins & and my cousin also has twins. I am the first to have triplets.
What made you think or suspect you could be pregnant? I initially started feeling nauseated and was vomiting nonstop. Certain foods just started tasting weird. And I was sleepy all the time.
Please take me through the day you found out you were pregnant. I did a home pregnancy test, I was shocked. Because I was using contraceptives, I thought maybe the was an error with the pregnancy test. I told my boyfriend, and he kept trying to calm me down but I was hysterical. I couldn’t sleep all night. I booked an appointment with my gynecologist first thing in the morning to find out what was going on with me. At the time I was not very happy with the outcome of my pregnancy test.
Before going to the doctor, did the thought that you could be carrying more than 1 kid cross your mind? Not at all. Never even considered it. In fact, I thought my pregnancy test was inaccurate, and I wasn’t pregnant.
Please take me through the moment you found out you were carrying triplets. I went to my gynecologist, to confirm I am NOT pregnant. Only to get there and have my gyne tell me that not only am I pregnant with 1 child, but it was 3. I was in disbelief like I am being pranked or something. I was in denial for a few weeks after that. I even went as far as doing hundreds of more sonars just to try to prove otherwise.
How long did it take for it to sink in that you’re carrying 3 kids? At 12 weeks when I did an in detailed sonar at the radiologist, that’s when it hit me.
Conceiving triplets naturally hardly happens, but you did it. What did this mean to you? I am literally Gods favourite human being, the odds are 0,13% to conceive triplets naturally. I am must be really special.
Please tell me about your pregnancy. Was it a smooth one? Were you able to carry till full term? My pregnancy was difficult, I was diagnosed with hyperemesis gravidarum (Hyperemesis gravidarum is a complication of pregnancy that affects various areas of the woman’s health, including homeostasis, electrolytes, and kidney function, and may have adverse fetal consequences). At 7 weeks, at the time I was doing the final year of my 4-year diploma in nursing science. I could barely keep down water or anything, I lost a total of 10kgs and had been hospitalized 8 times in total. Towards the end of the second trimester, I was struggling with breathing properly, and couldn’t walk long distances as the weight was getting too much. In the last few weeks, I would sleep sitting cause I couldn’t lay flat anymore and my legs and hips started getting painful with all the additional weight. At the end of my pregnancy I had, gained an additional 20kgs. I went in to labour naturally at 31 weeks & 5days.
Let’s talk about the birthing process, how was that? I gave Birth at Parklane maternity hospital, I arrived late at night around 7 PM and the nurses did a PV examination and assessed feral movements, and I was 2cms, my gynecologist was called and I was booked for an emergency Caesarean section. The pains were on another level, I was in tears. But the actual operation was a breeze.
What did you name your babies and what inspired the names? Ntsako (happiness), because she was always pouting and literally looked like a doll as a baby, she just looked happy all the time.
Ntsakiso (bring happiness), because she was always smiling & laughing from the moment I saw her. She would just bring me joy.
Tiyiselani (be strong), because throughout my pregnancy I had to be strong, and he was the only baby who wouldn’t kick me or cause me discomfort, he was being strong for mommy.
Your babies just turned a year, how has the journey been like in the past year? A lot of stress, tears, fighting and wanting to give up. It’s been a huge learning curve, from sleepless nights, surviving on literally 4 hours of sleep per day. To changing my lifestyle, less of social life, changing my spending habits, (because they really do cost an arm & a leg). Learning how to balance work, motherhood, love life, social life was a lot. The constant getting sick, teething, diarrhea, learning their different personalities, etc it’s been a long but beautiful journey.
Let’s talk about the reality of having 3 kids at the same time. How do you cope? Emotionally, physically and financially? It’s a lot of work and sacrifices. Emotionally draining, literally having to love and care for 3 humans at the same time who each want your attention at once. Physically, very limited rest and time for myself. My life schedule revolves around my babies. And financially is the pits, I have had to work a lot more overtime to try and compensate. Everything is 3x from formula , to diapers, wipes, medical aid, prams, toys, etc, It’s challenging, I won’t lie.
What do you love most about being a mom to triplets? They’re really entertaining to just sit and watch, all these 3 different personalities. They never cease to amaze me. The girls are always fighting, while the boy is peaceful. Also seeing myself in my babies like a photocopy of myself is literally mind-blowing.
Will you be trying for more kids in the near future? Nope,ANDIZI!!!!
What advice would you give an expectant mom who just found out she’s pregnant with more than 1 child? Try saving from the 1st day, identify people you can depend and rely on. And use them as a support system. Things will fall apart, but they always rebuild themselves again. Breathe, you not alone. And work on empowering yourself so you can better empower your babies. Never listen to the noise from people who tell you, you can’t do it. Millions before you have, and so can you. And lastly, kids grow regardless of everything else.
If you’d like to see more of Tsakani and her triplets, visit her YouTube channel.