Actress Linda Mtoba tweeted the below which opened up a much-needed conversation about how, as mothers, our bodies change post-partum.
I was 18
when I had my first child and my body didn’t change much, I don’t know if age
played a role, or maybe it’s genes. My boobs were the only thing that changed, and
I hate them. I went from people asking me if I had a boob job (because that’s how
perfect they used to be) to saggy boobs. It has taken me years to accept that
this is how my breasts are and there’s nothing I can do about.
As you may or
may not know, I’m pregnant again now and to be honest, I am shit scared of the
changes that might come this time. After Linda posted that tweet, other moms
came out and started talking about the changes their bodies went through, and
most of them had one thing in common, their bodies never went back to normal.
My biggest issue here is that these things are hardly spoken about, there’s so many things about pregnancy and childbirth that aren’t spoken about because the minute you open your mouth, you’re made to feel like you’re ungrateful for the blessing that most women would kill to have. Mothers have never been given a chance to openly complain about the real issues that come with pregnancy and motherhood. And don’t get me started on snapback culture, that’s another topic for another day honestly.
I am glad we’re finally having these open and honest conversations about what pregnancy and childbirth really is like. It’s not a walk in the park.