Talking all things motherhood with Olwethu Leshabane
December 9, 2020
“I’m a huge believer that as women, we don’t really switch off one thing to be another.” Mom, businesswoman and Comfort ambassador Olwethu Leshabane, talks to me about raising boys, finding balance, and her relationship with Comfort.
Have you always wanted to be a mom? Yes, from as young as I can remember, I always wanted to be a mom.
How has motherhood changed you? It has made me become a more relaxed person. I am calmer, more present, and aware of my surroundings.
You’re a mom of three boys, how do you cope? My first 2 are 17 months apart and my last one is 5 years later. To be honest, it’s a madhouse but I absolutely love it! My kids keep me so grounded and solid. They do the most mischievous things that frustrate me but also leave me wondering “How could he have possibly thought to do that? That looks fun! Dangerous… but fun.” So yeah, it’s interesting.
In the climate of femicide and extreme misogyny women face today, how has that impacted how you are raising your boys? I took some nuggets out of my mom in-law’s book of raising boys (she raised 4) – no one has a role assigned according to gender in this house. We’re all equal and we all respect each other. I also see how they watch how my husband treats me and they practice that kind of love towards each other and me too.
How do you balance being a mother, work, and more importantly, still being able to take care of yourself? Honestly, I see balance as work/life integration instead of trying to juggle everything. I’m a huge believer that as women, we don’t really switch off one thing to be another… We flow. We do it gracefully and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. We are allowed to be tired and say so. We are allowed to take long warm baths guiltlessly. We are allowed to escape from the kids from time to time and find our inner voice. So, I practice this and I find that in acknowledging this, I give my kids and spouse permission to do so too. They have learned not to see it as me being selfish but me needing to do it so that, I am better for them.
You are in the public eye a lot, how do you deal with people’s opinions of you and how you are raising your kids? I’m still learning how to filter the noise because not everyone is going to love your way. My mom and mom-in-law are my pillars here, they constantly remind me to be myself and that no one knows what’s best for my kids but me.
Let’s talk about your partnership with Comfort. How did it come about? Comfort is a product we use in our home so when approached with the opportunity to partner, it was a no brainer.
What do you love most about the brand? It lasts! It gives what it promises. Softness and scent and not in an overpowering way. Also, don’t tell anyone I told you this, but place a little bit of the Comfort Aromatherapy in a ziplock bag and leave in places around your house. The scent is magical! Or better yet… a half lid full in your water when you mop! Divine!
How has it made your life as a mom easier? The scent has a magic to it. I love being in spaces that smell good. My home must either smell like Domestos has just taken a sweep through it or a garden. I prefer the garden. Comfort is the girl that ensures I achieve this. From clothing to home care. And… I’m not only a mom to human babies but a dog mom too now… I can’t stand the scent left behind in the house when the dogs have been on the furniture and they’ve peed on the floor.
What advice would you give to both new and seasoned moms who are struggling to cope with motherhood? Get help if you are struggling. Don’t suffer in silence… get help. It is okay to struggle. We must remove this idea and notion that motherhood comes naturally for everyone.